“This is a light version of prostitution.” Than you earn the concubines in the 21st century
MOSCOW, 27 sen — news, Irina Halecky. Search engine “Yandex” on request “looking for sponsor” produces 22 million results, “looking for a kept woman” — 15 million. Kept today looking for men to solve their financial problems through specialized Dating sites.
These women do not need to strive and dedicate them a romantic evening, and so they are ready for a sponsorship. The danger of such a lifestyle, is there a “Code kept woman” and how much does one dinner with a man — a young girl and sponsor anonymous told RIA Novosti.
Svetlana (name changed at the request of the heroine), 23. The last year of living at the expense of sponsors:
“A man in a skirt”
A few years ago I graduated from high school and came to St. Petersburg from the Siberian province. Mom and dad never made millions, so I entered the University, decided not to be a burden. I went from three jobs to provide for themselves.
There is such a harsh word “plow” — it is applicable to modern girls. We are taught men that asking for help is ugly, if you look materialistic.
My then Deputy refused to help, but required my attention and care. I feel like I’ve become “a man in a skirt”: I think only about how would I earn. Debts choked from all sides.
The code is kept
Out of desperation I went to the website for sponsors and concubines. First impression — “the horror, how can you sell yourself to the unfamiliar man? “Then I looked at questionnaires: some girls have been with several diplomas, in the “About me”, wrote interesting short texts. On their pages there was no self, where half of the screen is pumped gel lips. Real girls that are looking for support — so they call sponsorship.
First, I decided that such a meeting should be regarded as a business: I use my beauty and I paid for it. But in fact it doesn’t work. The girl decides for what purposes she becomes a kept woman. If you put half-naked photos and write what you are ready for a one-time meeting for 15 thousand roubles, it is no different from prostitution. The attitude is appropriate. Men such girls are called “meat”. Earn a lot so will not work.
Now I’m Dating several men. Every month they pay me about 200 thousand rubles. While this is not a serious relationship, so men few.
The main article in an unwritten “Code kept woman”: if you find your man, you should meet with him because this relationship has been based on feelings.
The portrait of a typical sponsor
Sponsor — most often the owner of some large enterprises, has a high status in society, but deprived of female attention. Not all of them married, many divorced. There are cases when the person was not married never. But most often it is the man who is tired of the relationship with his wife, but has no plans to divorce. These men have no time to write or to go to Nightclubs and pick the right one. They are not looking for pacifiers — they have no time to make mistakes.
No need to wait for that men will begin to write first. Here works the same principle as on the Bulletin Board when searching for an apartment.
Men often write in the form, indicate your requirements, such as: “looking for a woman for infrequent encounters, sex with mutual liking. Payment of 50 thousand RUB per month” or “Looking for a girl for relations — 150 thousand roubles a month”.
Sponsors, wealth which is above average, begin to think differently. They treat women not as consumers, they politely called kept woman “beloved” and do not require intimate connection — all in mutual sympathy. I dated different men, and only one told me straight that looking for a mistress for one night. Others, on the contrary, doesn’t want to rush.
It is easy to stumble upon a serial killer who is good with disguises, or swindler, in which for the soul nothing. Suspiciously, if the questionnaire is filled out partially or not photo. No girl from danger not insured. I asked to send the photo in private messages, to understand with whom you communicate. A true sponsor will agree, and the charlatan will give back.
Calculate cheat can on a picture. First — quality photography. If the picture is fuzzy, it is likely that its cheap phone. Second — how people dressed, his pose and the surroundings. If photographing a bundle of money or expensive cars, it is 100% fake. Very often the real sponsor seems like a simple man in the street, maybe you would even pass by.