The beginning of the year is a traditional time for how to shake up the old stuff and throw too much. And in order to re-examine your life, weigh what it lacks, and what better to get rid of. In other words, time to make plans for the coming year. Here only very often these plans are subsequently not true.
Why? Psychologist Oleg Shevchenko believes that the reason for this is largely connected with the wrong approach to the planning process. In this room he gives advice to our readers how to set goals, then they have to achieve.
All, Monday starts a new life! Who at least once have not applied yourself with this sacramental phrase! It sounds especially convincing when the notorious Monday coincides with the beginning of the year… the Man is going to change in your life almost everything to become happy and successful, instead of the one he has now — confused, tense and not very joyful. But somehow, as a rule, the plans remain plans, and life continues…
The main mistake of those who decide to start a new life, lies in the grandeur of the planned change, — says Oleg Shevchenko. Is how to set out to take and move a mountain. It sounds impressive, but the mountain in the end and stays in place. But if a person decided to relocate the ground with buckets, his plans are likely to come true.
Therefore the first rule: dispense your intentions! Break your plans into separate stages and each stage take some time — and this time, which is probably enough to achieve the goal. Because nothing discourages more than failure. Example: do not put yourself to the task in the new year to learn English — just decide to buy a tutorial or to enroll. Do not plan to build a sauna — only to lay her Foundation.
Don’t expect to turn into a muscular Superman — just write down your plans everyday pushups-squats.
The second rule: do not build plans for your personal life! To fulfill them is almost impossible. It is impossible to schedule, say, a marriage or divorce: if you are ready for this step, I will do it immediately without any plans. If you are not ready, the idea that it NEEDS to be done, or it will plunge you into depression or force to commit an error. If a person is Mature enough to propose to his girlfriend, he immediately, without any delay, will do. If not ripe, but believes that it is time to marry, and forced himself to offer her hand and heart, such a family is unlikely to bring joy. But most likely, he won’t do that and his intention only will join the list of unfulfilled plans.
Rule three: do not presume to change your life simultaneously on many fronts. Select the most important at the moment: health, or work, or living conditions. Scheduling too many things, you risk not to execute any of them.
The fourth rule: never make plans, the execution of which depends not only on you. Determined to start a business with friends and subsequently received a refusal from my friends, the person will feel like a complete loser. Of course, intentions can (and should!) to be different, and they include some that are shared with other projects. But it is not necessary to include them in the list of their personal plans. Because your personal plans must be implemented. With such a calculation and they need to be.
Rule the fifth: together with the cases, the implementation of which will require substantial effort, be sure to plan something nice. For example, a trip that long time dream or a desired purchase, or, finally, an enjoyable hobby, which is still not enough time. Pleasant plans to mobilize and give a powerful impetus to the implementation of all dreams!
To this I would add that it is better not to inform about his intentions and all. Can share them with those you love the most and that if it is necessary. Let the surround – ing your future success will be a pleasant surprise!
Author: Irina Seliverstova
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