Psychologists have described as the “likes” in social networks can ruin relationships
MOSCOW, January 15 — RIA Novosti. British psychologist Martin Graff from the University of South Wales in Cardiff, told the Daily Telegraph newspaper, what negative consequences can have on a romantic relationship with so-called micro-infidelity through social networking.
Micro-change increasingly describe the grey area between friendship and full-fledged treason. In Urban Dictionaries has this definition: “when someone cheats on their partner, but only a little.”
Graff explained what actions can be considered a micro-change in social networks.
It can be something very simple — for example, regularly like someone’s posts in Instagram or comment on someone’s page in Facebook.Martin Graff British psychologist NewsExperts have found that such a betrayal
Other examples include page views of their former partners, the habit to send to someone who is not your partner, emoticons in the form of hearts or flowers, the need to constantly check someone’s Instagram and other such actions.
“From the point of view of the history of human communication and relationships this is something completely new,” says Graff. According to him, the research clearly shows that as people are more likely to use social networks, it was accompanied by an increase in the number of quarrels among couples in this regard.
Graff drew attention to one nuance associated with communication in social networks: now for the actions of the partner to follow much easier than before. “On sites like Facebook or Instagram in order to go through them, no special efforts are necessary”, — said the psychologist.
Previously, micro-infidelity reasoned Australian psychologist Melanie Schilling. In an interview with the Huffington Post she explained how to understand that the partner commits such actions.
According to her, the key point is secrecy: if, for example, a person hides a chat when his partner comes into the room, for it is certainly worth paying attention to.
She noted that such moments should be discussed with your partner, but to be “objective and rational” and not “subjective and emotional”.
Schilling also noted how such behavior can affect attitude.
Allowing micro-change to continue, you create a model of relations that has a negative impact on you and allows your partner to get your piece of the pie.Melanie Challengeschallenges psychologist